“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
-Bernard M. Baruch
There’s such a fine line between being arrogant and being sure and confident in who you are, along with your talents and gifting(s). On one side, it’s such an amazing blessing to know what you’re purposed here on Earth to do. On the flip side, due to the fact that most people are slackers, haters are more prevalent than ever. Which means that people have insecurities and doubts about where they are in life that they consistently attempt to project onto you. People who are laser focused on what they’re supposed to be doing have zero time or tolerance for these types of toxic people, personalities, and attitudes in their lives. How many of you can relate to being labeled arrogant, stuck up, boojie, cocky, conceited, or a host of other over the top accusations rooted in envy and jealousy. I really believe that systems (especially in Western culture) often fuel people to operate at less than sub par roles/levels in life that inevitably result in depression, instability, complacency, and comfortability. What happened to that no holds barred, conquer the Universe, take no prisoners attitude that our ancestors and founding Fathers so vigorously adopted and died for? Freedom means that we have the ability to make something out of nothing. And, here in America, no one really has an excuse to not achieve or experience the level of success that they so desire. I’m not claiming that you need to be a millionaire, but I do believe that it’s of utmost importance to know and understand who you really are and live up to that. Let you be the standard by which you live. And, not in a hedonistic sense, but in a godly, purposeful sense. If you have a strong calling and are gifted in a particular area or field, be the absolute best that you can in it. Learn everything about it. Be the most knowledgable that you can, and then go learn some more. If there’s nothing left to learn, work on learning how to be the best at the next item on your agenda. Exceed the standard, beat people’s expectations, do everything with excellence, and soar. If you’re truly walking in what you were placed here on the earth to do, it’s nearly impossible to be unhappy, distracted, depressed, financially ruined, and all of the other symptoms associated with sub-par achievement. Be confident in it! Own it! Love what you do, and let people love you doing what you love to do! Passion, purpose, persevere– remember?
Be encouraged, I could write a dissertation on how many family members, friends, colleagues, and the like have tried to derail me from achieving greatness by tearing down my process, labeling me arrogant, stupid, unwise, and a host of others. Allowing these things to hinder my growth and development would have stagnated me forever. Who really cares what people think, though? I mean, does it really matter? Do they have to endure life with you day in and day out? Your spouse, maybe, but if you’re married, you and your spouse should already be on the same page with everything. Yes, I said everything! And, if you’re not, focus on fixing that and getting on the right page with each other before worrying about any ancillary things. Family first.
There’s a quote by Billionaire Mark Cuban, owner of the Dallas Mavericks, and an entrepreneur that I have quite a bit of respect for. He said something so pinnacle in an interview that resonated with me heavy. He said, “Never take advice from anyone who doesn’t have to live with the consequences.” [Jaw Drops]. Did you just hear (read) that? I want you take out a pen and pad right now, drop everything you’re doing and fill that first sheet of paper with this adage as many times as it’ll fit. You need to brand this in your brain with an iron pen. I don’t care what it takes. Do it. Remember this as if your destiny depends on it, because it does.
I have a lot more to say/write..But I think I’ll just let you chew on that for a while. We’ll pick this up later 🙂